“Do you feel
Cold and lost
You build up hope
But failure’s all
Remember all the sadness and frustration,and
Let it go.”
These are lyrics to a song by one of my favourite bands ,Linkin park,the song is titled “iridiscent”.
Man! ,don’t humans just harbour a lot of pain,frustration,and hatred.We are forever caught in the miasma of the toxic and unfortunate events of our lives,and blindly dwell there,we cease to try,convinced that we will fail like the last time.
When life gives a second chance at love,we do not grab it instantly.One asks themselves, what if I get hurt like the last time?,Won’t he or she regret choosing me?,Isn’t he or she too good for me?,Do people think we are suited for each other? So instead of relaxing and having a good time,we labour to be the kind of person we think our partner wants us to be,we lose our individuality out of fear of being dumped.
We are constantly paranoid,an sms notification on his or her phone becomes unsettling ,seeing him or her speaking with a person of the opposite sex is disturbing.Jelousy and insecurity threaten to ruin the relationship ,all because of the choice to dwell in the hurts and disappointments of the past.
A business idea pops up,we do not act on it,or perhaps we go seeking as much validation as possible, from other people.We listen to them remind us of past failed business ventures,and we are encouraged to take the easy way out by avoiding more risks.As a result, many excuses are given,out of fear of losing the initial investment like the last time,or having people point out, “i told you it would fail.” So all the ideas ,even those of inventions which could have changed the world stay buried.
When God gives us another chance to connect with him ,we resist,fear looms.Does this sound familiar?,Impossible maybe? I personally struggle in this department. Having been burnt many times during my Christian walk,I sometimes think that Satan attacks me to prove a point,and what is most frustrating is that God allows him.
This process of being constantly put under the test is tiring,heartbreaking and mostly seems to drag on forever.So when opportunity presents that I be closer to God,I immediately get scared,I think my life is going to turn upside down,I am going to cry a lot,I will be tormented for trusting in God.That jeopardizes my faith,and instead of having an exclusive relationship with God,I am one foot in, and one out! I think many of us struggle with this.
Human beings do not want their peace to be bothered,we do not want trouble to instantly follow us everywhere we go,and if we think association with God makes us the devil’s targets,we keep a distance.We fail to live by faith and forget how God has constantly come through for people who put their trust in him.
But what if Job had cursed God and cut him out of his life after having been tried and tormented for his faith?Can you imagine how life would have turned out for him?What if Thomas Edison had thrown in the towel for fear of another failure.How about Jack Ma,a typical guy whom failure is all he’d ever known?
Resilience is what kept such kind of men going,letting go of all the sadness and frustration and trying again.How about trying to,
- Let go of all the mistakes you have allowed to haunt you.Be grateful for having made them,allow those mistakes to be a reference for a good lesson,and use them to redeem yourself.
- Let go of the friends that have held you back all this time.The ones who think little of you,the ones whose only opinion is merely to crush your spirit.The naysayers,who scoff at your dreams.If they are the reason you have not tried anything new,then its time you let them go.
- Let go of the dreams you have been holding on to.I mean,the dreams which were never yours in the first place,you know those that have taken over your entire life.The ones that make your life seem stagnant.
- Let go of the hate and bitterness in your heart.Yes,you have been wronged,you do have a right to be angry.Yes, what happened to you was unfair.But holding on to hatred and bitterness is a slow process of heading to an early grave
Letting go is not easy but it is
necessary for one’s health,family life,and social life.At some point,life has to go on,the pieces have to be picked up.I think Chester Bennington would not have committed suicide had he paid attention to the powerful lyrics of his song.